March 16th, 2010
She goes to bed no problem on her own, but wakes up 2-3 times and can only be soothed with a bottle, i have tried the let her cry method but she will literally scream for ever!Wow, I just read all these replies.....just WOW!
Your child is teething, the chewing on the bottle is helping soothe the pain.
You should stop feeding your baby at night, they could develop a bad habit, get overweight and develop bottle rot from this.
talk to your DR about what to do to help alleviate your child's teething pain. there are home remedies and you might be able to give the child children's tylenol or Ibuprofen (if the Dr says it is ok).
The cry it out method should be done when you are putting the child down for bed or for a nap. If they are waking up in the middle of the night, it is for a reason.Well a few things you could try that I would not suggest or prohibit would be 1. Knocking her unconscious with a solid object. 2. Sleeping pills. 3. Tape her mouth shut 4. sew her mouth shut. All very possible methods to keep your child quiet but if you did any of the crap I think I'd rip your heart out the way you'd rip mine out by hurting an innocent child. A more direct and probably good way to help your daughter sleep....you say she can only be soothed with a bottle? Try leaving her with an empty bottle to sleep with...if that doesn't work try leaving her with a full bottle. I'm not an expert but things will get better! Hope I helped! Good luck.you'll have to put up with it, my daughter is 18m/o and still has at least 2 bottles a nightGive her a teddy bear to sleep with.Well actually babies are just weird...they eat less than their weight and poo more than their weight... but who would ever taunt that lil kiuty pouuchypouuchouu when he/she smiles and say's mama after the poo...anyway so babies at that age generally sleep for 10-12 hours or so...+ the 1 or 2 naps during the day... different babies have different times/patterns/method of sleeping.. you should have started that long ago, imean to note his patterns...anyway so it's not about making the baby 'drunk' after a big baby bottle of milk or whatsoever... it is about the time she wakes up, takes her naps and goes to sleep, the long sleep. Consider yourself, if you wake up at 4am, what time you thing you need to go bed...and if you woke at 2pm in the afternoon and go to sleep at 9pm that day...how would you feel later.. and isn't this a breaking of your normal sleeping times? so stick to a time you thing the long sleep will last... consider having one nap of 1hr15min instead of 2 1hr naps... Don't feed the baby just before sleeping... but before... babies are not meant to be tortured or left out crying... you are a mother, a parent and you should know the signs... all the time dedicated to the child by the parents from birth to age 6-8yo will determine how he or she will turn out to be later... don't bother about that now but be with your child... you gave birth to her, why are you worried to wake up at night for her? if you were concerned about yourself, why gave birth to her... what i want to say is you have to sacrifice for her, as your parents did for you... she cannot speak!! or at least say a good conversation... how will she say she got nightmares or has pain? crying... so...?! well might be nightmares or anxiety as well... she is already human now... anyway so one thing, babies tend to call 'mama' 'papa' the first living thing they see, and they fell that they will protect them... that's why babies cry when you ask someone he/she has not get used to before, to hold her... she cries because she wants you..she needs you... you love..care...hug...coaxing...so make her time before sleep memorable... lullabies, lil playing, make her smile... not like 'sleep!!!!sleeepp!!!!shutup!!''....all those mother i see treating their child like animals, yea taking the dog in hands and chaining the child... anyway she is still young, make necessary changes or anything now (sleep times and all...) later it might be harder... look into her eyes... see her cute round nose...the smile and lips...she moving about... mama gougougaga... :) be with her... she is you...Its a sad thing...when they won't sleep through. If you want her to keep using the bottle put cereal in it...
My son used to do that. I was trying to get him off the bottle. I would go in and tell him "Mommy is here. Go back to sleep." Sometimes I would do it two or three times.
Just knowing I am here and haven't left him...he would still cry for about 1 hr + but he would go back to sleep.
He realized after awhile he wasnt getting his bottle...haha...I gave him a blanket to cuddle and sooth him instead.The let her cry method is probably your best bet. I tried everything with my son (now 18 months) and it was the only thing that worked. It took about four days of refusing to go into his room at all. He would scream for about two hours before he fell asleep and then only sleep for ten to twenty minutes. It was awful and I cried every night but now I don't regret it. Good luck!Give her a McChicken.She will "literally" scream forever? Wow. I would think her lungs would get tired after a while. She must scream while she eats...and while she sleeps. You might want to contact Guinness...or at least Dr. Phil.
My advice is to think of her constant screaming as an "Everything is all right alarm". It's like a reverse fire alarm. When the screaming stops, that's when you should be worried.Start decreasing the amount of milk (or whatever you use) in the bottle. Eventually get down to the tiniest bit you can until it is gone. That will help break that habit. It depends on your what you are comfortable with. Some parents will let a child cry it out, some won't. You need to decide which side of the fence you are on. I have three children. I could NOT let them cry it out. No offense to the people who have used this method, if it worked for you, great. I had alot of bad dreams as a small child, and needed the comfort, so I just can't leave a child to cry - I want my kids to know i'll always come if they need me! I should also tell you that none of my kids slept through the night until their 2nd birthday, so we had a collective 6 years of not sleeping more than a few hours at a time.
That being said, my kids are now 15, 13 and 7, all are great, secure kids and wonderful sleepers. I don't regret a thing. I don't close their bedroom doors either, again I didn't ever want a child to feel trapped or that their cries wouldn't be met immediately.
Different things work with different families - i've got a sister in law that let her kids cry it out no matter what and also closes their bedroom doors with a kidproof handle on the inside so they can't get out. Gives me chills to think about it but it works for her and her kids seem happy.
There is no 'right' answer, it's more to do with your personality and how you feel about it. Instead of giving her a bottle..give her like 2-3 oz of water. Then her body will let go of the need for food. Make sure it is warm and not cold too. Your other option is just before she goes to sleep give her warm milk with one spoonful for every oz of either rice, oatmeal, grain or whatever kind of baby cereal you choose and put it in there. Slit the end of the nipple in order for her to be able to get it out. You do that with just a kitchen knife. The idea is to make her completely full before going to bed. If this does not work, just rock her back to sleep. I would keep away from the bottles of milk at night. That is the only thing making her wake up. She just needs to get out of the habit. Good luck!never use the let her cry method it is so unfair
when i was little i slept with my parents until i was like 4 so try to let her sleep in you and your husbands bed
PS it works better if you all sleep on the bed sideways and have your own blanketi know it hurts to listen to the cry method but its the best there is#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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